Two weeks ago a man in France was arrested for raping his daughter. She’d gone to her school counselor and then the police, but they needed “hard evidence.” So, she videotaped her next assault. Her father was eventually arrested. His attorney explained, “There was a period when he was unemployed and in the middle of a divorce. He insists that these acts did not stretch back further than three or four months. His daughter says longer. But everyone should be very careful in what they say.” Because, really, even despite her seeking help, her testimony, her bravery in setting up a webcam to film her father raping her, you really can’t believe what the girl says, can you?
Everyone “knows” this. Even children.
Three years ago, in fly-on-the-wall fashion of parent drivers everywhere, I listened while a 14-year-old girl in the back seat of my car described how angry she was that her parents had stopped allowing her to walk home alone just because a girl in her neighborhood “claimed she was raped.” When I asked her if there was any reason to think the girl’s story was not true, she said, “Girls lie about rape all the time.” She didn’t know the person, she just assumed she was lying…
No one says, “You can’t trust women,” but distrust them we do. College students surveyed revealed that they think up to 50% of their female peers lie when they accuse someone of rape, despite wide-scale evidence and multi-country studies that show the incident of false rape reports to be in the 2%-8% range, pretty much the same as false claims for other crimes. As late as 2003, people jokingly (wink, wink) referred to Philadelphia’s sex crimes unit as “the lying bitch unit.” If an 11-year-old girl told an adult that her father took out a Craigslist ad to find someone to beat and rape her while he watched, as recently actually occurred, what do you think the response would be? Would she need to provide a videotape after the fact?
It goes way beyond sexual assault as well. That’s just the most likely and obvious demonstration of “women are born to lie” myths. Women’s credibility is questioned in the workplace, in courts, by law enforcement, in doctors’ offices, and in our political system. People don’t trust women to be bosses, or pilots, or employees. Pakistan’s controversial Hudood Ordinance still requires a female rape victim to procure four male witnesses to her rape or risk prosecution for adultery. In August, a survey of managers in the United States revealed that they overwhelmingly distrust women who request flextime. It’s notable, of course, that women are trusted to be mothers—the largest pool of undervalued, unpaid, economically crucial labor.
THEYRE LIKE A FAMILY OF DINOSaurs
omg how cute what are they???
#i dont have the heart to tell them the truth
just let them. ignorance is bliss.
I had no idea I was a novelist.
Might as well call me the new Poe
- Fucking came home from work to get bitched at because my dad wasn't aware of the plans I'm making yet fucking everyone else does. Maybe if you actually fucking took part in my life you'd know shit like that.
Hi, I have seen a lot of these things on tumblr before and I wanted to do one because my situation has seriously gotten out of hand. This little cutie standing next to me is my 7-year-old sister. She’s in second grade and is being bullied because our dad died a year and a half ago. Every other day she comes home off the bus crying because some asshole little kid wants to grind some salt into that wound. Today she told me people were kicking her on the bus and when she turned to her friend and asked for what she should do, the little bitch said ‘ask your dad’.
The school won’t do anything about it, the bus drivers won’t do anything about it either. My mother is losing her mind because the school district is just letting this go under the radar. This is very hurtful to my baby sister and I want her to feel like there are people who care about her.
I just want people to like or reblog this so she can see in numbers how many people think that this is bull shit and it needs to be stopped.
who the fuck would say shit like that
i will personally spoon out the kidneys of the little fucking shit that said that
more reasons why to hate people.
dimpleburg asked: Thank you for your reply to my post, it really means a lot to me
No problem. Just remember that you’re never alone,someone always cares even if it is a stranger on tumblr